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Discussion in 'The Lounge - Off Topic' started by tripwire45, Jan 5, 2009.

  1. tripwire45
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    I tried asking this of a person on Facebook but never got an answer.

    I've noticed that some people will request to be my "friend" on Facebook and I have no idea who they are. The first time it happened, I thought that my memory had failed me and that I just didn't recall who the person was. This has happened several times since then, and I'm sure these are people I have never met and have little or nothing in common with (except we live in the same city or went to the same school once upon a time).

    What gives?
     
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  2. twizzle

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    i've had this a few times Trip. Sometimes its just someone with teh same surname as me, or someone who knows someone who knows me. Other times its spammers.

    I dont add them immediatley, if i think i know them i send a message back first. if i don't know them i just leave it. If they arent spammers and really do want to add me as a friend they would send another request.

    Of course it could also be someone on here thats found you and you just dont recognise thier name?
     
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  3. tripwire45
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    From what I can gather, it's probably a form of "spamming". I've noticed that these people are pretty active in whatever they do and what they post to Facebook, so I think they are using this process to "spread their "fame", so to speak. Also, the more friends they have, the more popular they look.
     
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  4. wagnerk
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    I don't use my facebook account alot, however I also get "friend invites", and unless I know them I just hit the ignore button :)

    -ken
     
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  5. Arroryn
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    I'm going to try to say this without too much ego-stroking, but have you considered the 'fame factor' at all?

    You haven't made a secret of your writing on your Facebook profile, and if people search for books, etc, and the name 'James Pyles' plopped up at the top of the screen - do you think they're putting two and two together and fancy a chinwag with a favourite technical author?

    If any of the fictional authors I admire so were insane enough to get genuine Facebook accounts, I would feel compelled to perhaps email them some sad fanmail of some variety - I wouldn't do an unsolicited friend request, but I would 'contact' them - the way we used to write letters in the 'good old days'. I used to get a response from children's authors - which was nice. And I get responses from technical writers when I contact them to comment on their essays too. Meh. Maybe it's just me :rolleyes:
     
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  6. tripwire45
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    I don't consider myself "famous" by any stretch of the imagination. When looking at the profiles of the people I *don't* know who, nevertheless, are my friends, none of them would seem to have the history or jobs that would bring them in contact with anything I've written.

    I have reconnected with a number of people I used to work with via Facebook and LinkedIn, which has been very nice. I've been wondering what happened to them.

    Unless other compelling information becomes available, I'll settle on my being invited to be a friend because A, they want to spread their causes/data to a wider social network and B, they want to increase their friend count.

    If someone actually asks to become my Facebook friend just because I've written a couple of technical books, I'll be totally blown away. I still am shocked when I get the occasional email from someone who read one of my books and really likes it. :wink: :oops:
     
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  7. Arroryn
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    Would "well-respected" make it an easier theory to consider? :wink:

    So you don't think we're all insane then :p

    I don't often get replies from my 'good read' emails - but it's nice when a writer does find the time to respond. Most of the time I guess, the emails are probably either deleted on sight, or read with a roll of the eyes and a quick click of the 'delete' button. :oops:
     
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  8. greenbrucelee
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    There are people on facebook who just do friend requests to get their friends count up. Which is a bit sad in my opinion.

    There is a girl who just randomly invites men to be her friend she has about 500 friends she is called Hannie Wallace or something like that, there is no way she knows that many people. Looking at her profile picture it is obvious why men accept her request.

    I tried contacting her after mistakenly accepting her request but didn't get a reply. She's probably a facebook bot, there to install spyware on everyones profile page.
     
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  9. tripwire45
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    I can't imagine a writer or other creative person not being flattered if their work is liked, but in the case of a really popular author, they probably just don't have the time to respond to the hundreds or thousands of emails and such that come there way. I do remember that when my son Michael was in Jr High and High School, he was a big fan of Michael Crichton. As part of a class assignment, he had to read a book and then write the author (in this case, Crichton) describing his experience with the book. He never expected any sort of a response, but he did get a brief note back, along with an autographed picture of Crichton. Sure, it was probably something that was pre-made, but Michael was appreciative nonetheless. I suppose if I "hit it big", I'd still feel the same way about people reading my books that I do now, but it would be much more difficult to be able to send everyone a personal response.

    No, you're not insane. :wink:

    Of course, who knows where that picture came from. There's no way to be absolutely sure that the pic in the person's profile is really her photograph.
     
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    I deleted my facebook, i hate it, I loathe and despise it even. It just defies the basic law of socialising, you have several seperate social circles and thats it, but now, with facebook, everyone is in one big circle and that causes problems, all of a sudden you have current Gfs who can stalk your exes, mates that can stalk your gf, parents that can stalk their children.

    then you get these idiots who take cameras EVERYWHERE and insist on taking 70 pics on an night out to make it seem like they are super cool "oh look at me, i'm drinking a teenagers drink, i'm cool" get a Fu**ing grip.

    When I go out, I don't have the time to take a picture let alone an entire album worth because im socialising, not sitting with my one friend in some toilets posing in front of the mirror then bragging about how drunk I look.

    I swear to christ i'm going to shoot the guy that made that parasite with the name facebook.

    *breathe breathe* [end rant]
     
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  11. newkoba

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    somebody sounds like they need more facebook friends... :)

    facebook is an interesting site, but i agree it does seem to be for those with too much time on their hands.
     
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    haha, it's just a really sad thing, as much as I love technology, the idea of sharing my entire life online as opposed to going out and meeting people is just absurd.

    What's worse is the way people act when they are on it "Heeeeeeeyyy!!!" to someone they would never talk to any other time, and they do it just so they will poke or write on their wall or whatever the hell it is.

    it is all a bit plastic and fake, for the people who like to feel they are liked, self ego boosting pretty much.
     
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  13. tripwire45
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    Egad! What have I gotten myself into? :eek:
     
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  14. Arroryn
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    Sounds like you had a bad 'ol experience of it, Westernkings :)

    I like to use it to keep in contact with people I would genuinely have difficulty contacting otherwise, for various personal reasons. As a result, I've been trimming down my number of friends recently, and will continue to do so until I am happy with those that I can and cannot see :)
     
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  15. westernkings

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    I wouldn't say bad experiences :biggrin: I'm just a bit uncomfortable with my entire social circle and life being available like that. I'm a pretty private person to be honest. :p

    Never really had a bad experience, it just ticks me off and the problems caused by that site far outweigh any pleasure gained from it. :twisted:

    I just hate it, it represents the majority of things wrong with Britain today. I'm just a Scrooge trapped in a young mans body
     
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