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Sometimes I feel like I wasnt built to work...

Discussion in 'Employment & Jobs' started by Juelz, Oct 30, 2013.

  1. Juelz

    Juelz Gigabyte Poster

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    Sorry for ranting but I have no one else to rant too. Im getting really depressed about not having a decent future in the making.. it feels like I fail at everything. . I thought an IT support career would be great for me as its something I have always enjoyed, but I have realised how complicated support roles really are and dont see myself being smart enough to do the job well and I don't see anyone wanting to employ me as I served 18 months in a young offenders prison when I was 15... I have tried many careers such as Carpenter, Mechanic and I was never any good so quit. I just dont enjoy anything enough to stick with it, I become bored when it becomes to difficult. I usually like the idea of doing a job but after awhile I get sick of it, dont even know if I will finish my comptia college course tbh. I think I generally just suck at life lol. Funny thing is my mum and dad think im some kind of confident genius.. my dad still believes I graduated university when really I dropped out.

    I do work a terrible minimum wage job which I hate and may possibly be sacked from soon.. I have about 3k in debt which sounds like nothing but for a fool like me who finds it hard to save money its alot. I just want to be successful and for my gf to be proud of me and not think "why did I have a kid with this man" if I could just make everyone see me successful at one darn thing I would die happy.

    I do like the idea of web development, design and app development and tbh its the only thing that I have enjoyed doing which is legal. But downside is there isnt much money in it as there arent stable enough jobs in this field, competition is high, work can be easily outsourced, work is scarce, things like wordpress etc making it easier for people to build websites. So I pretty much stopped learning to code as I only do things like that if it has a future in it and didn't think it was fun enough to the point it would become a genuine hobby.

    I guess the most ultimate best job in tge world would be something like a movie star or musician.. possibly a games designer would be pretty sweet but all these dreams are not going to happen. So best thing I can do is to just carry on... I dont even have enough willpower to fake smile through the day.. I dunno but I think I have really had enough..

    Im not looking for sympathy or anything I just wanted to tell someone, regardless whether they care or not and I feel better..ish

    (Typed on my phone)
     
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  2. SimonD

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    Dude, you make your own way in life, so you ****ed up when you were young, so what.

    Now get a grip and stop moping around because that **** sticks and before long you're suicidal and people lose interest.

    Be positive and don't give up because if you do then you only have one person to blame... YOU.

    You think life is easy? It's not but you only have one life to live so make the most of it whilst you can (3k in debt is nothing!!!).

    Hard is being out of work for 6 months, nearly losing your house, having to sell you car just to put food on the table (and losing 30k in the year of owning said car).

    As for lying about Uni, you need to get that sorted out sooner rather than later because it will come back and bite you on your arse (just ask my ex who once was asked to prove her degree, she couldn't and had to leave the job).

    Start having some confidence in your abilities and people will start to believe in you but I do have to tell you that working in IT isn't a walk in the park (whilst typing this out I am refreshing my homelab, yes, at nearly midnight) and you do have to work hard for it, no one is owed anything so don't expect to just walk straight in to a decent role.

    Finally, please stop these whinging posts, yes I understand that things could be looking down to you but you're not as bad off as you could be (after all you typed this on your phone, imagine not having a phone, home, family, job, life etc), man up and stop thinking that every thing can be fixed by getting a role in IT, what fixes everything is working hard and taking control of your life.

    Sorry but I feel that you need a kick up the arse and realise that feeling sorry for yourself doesn't do you or anyone any good.
     
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  3. Juelz

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    if you read what I said you wikl see that I just wanted to geta few things of my chest as the point being I dont whine to anyone, just on the Internet. But thanks for your 2 cents although I doubt you read what I said as I stated I thought I would like IT support but havent enjoyed it. And the reason my debt is small is because I have sold my flat and moved me and my family in with my parents so yes I know what 30k debt is and what its like to have no job.. my main depression is not having self worth its nothing to do with maning the **** up ad you put it. Im from a poor village in India so please refrain from acting like you personally know me and my experiences as where im from people dont even have cars to sell.
     
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  4. SimonD

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    Listen, this isn't your first whingy post, you have asked questions about different career choices and have made numerous posts about woe is me, I am trying to advise you that life isn't easy and to stop trying to put the blame on your poor career choices. If you don't like the advice then simply don't post or listen to it but remember that anything you put on the internet is fair game (you want a private conversation do it in person with a friend).

    I understand that IT Support might not be for you but you need to find what does work for you but I do have to tell you that you will face periods in your life where you have to do a ****ty job, it comes with having responsiblities.

    No, I don't know you personally but do you really think you're the only one with life issues? Do you hear me or many others on this site talking about their woes.. here? no, because this isn't the place. You want advice about career choices then sit down and listen but understand that it's not going to come to you all wrapped up on a silver platter, you will have to work hard for it, there will be times when you question why you worked 100 hours in a week but to be truely successful you do need to put the time and effort in.

    Sorry this may appear harsh to you but really until you start believing in yourself and being confident why should others believe and trust in you?
     
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  5. Juelz

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    career advice doesnt involve being told to man the fkup have been undesisive about IT hence why I ask questions. I dont know where you get thr assumption I expect things handed to me as I work for everything I have doing exactly what you said 100hrs per week and a crap job. I wanted to vent how I felt as I said previously I dont speak to people and I have few friends. But thanks anyway.
     
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    Juelz, without trying to sound too harsh, im going to side with SimonD on this one. Your initial post topic, saying sometimes i feel i wasnt built to work sums it all up really. Not everything in life will go as you think it should, if so id of won the lottery over and over again and id have a girl in every town in the world waiting for me, pity its only the UK ha ha.

    No one will know you like you do so this is not even worth tackling. As for career advice, if someone give me advice whether good or bad, i take it as at the end of the day its advice, if you dont like what you hear, then dont ask, its that simple. Just because a problem is hard does not mean its not solvable, IT jobs will throw a lot of issues your way, and even though you may be the smartest kid on the block you still will never be able to account for human error, when i say that i mean, in a scenario where they are adamant that they have typed in a password in correctly, and have used a small p instead of a capital P.

    I also think you have other issues and problems that are adding to this, you seem to be after a quick fix, but not wanting to put the work in, who doesnt.

    As for feeling better ..ish, what were you going to expect, no one in here will tell you everything will be ok, as they dont know, they can only offer you words of encouragement.

    'I said previously I dont speak to people and I have few friends'. This sticks out with me as you need to address this as speaking to people opens doors, even though at the time you may not realise, and when you talk to someone, no matter what the subject is about and you connect, then that feeling will help you out and give you a boost.

    We all have different situations and crosses to bear, but even tho ranting may help, i think its other issues in the background that may need to be addressed.

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  7. rocdamike

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    Hi Juelz,

    From personal experience, sometimes the best advice is the most harsh advice. It seems to me your lack of confidence and the way you continuously doubt your abilities all the time is getting the best of you. I can identify a little bit with some of the stuff in your initial post. I used to consider myself as an intelligent pupil in high school, but then screwed it up by truanting a lot which led to me attaining mediocre GCSE grades. After this, I decided I had enough of education and made the decision not to go to college or university. From then on I spent 8 years in retail on minimum wage essentially stacking shelves.

    Fast forward to May of this year, I decided that I was going to do something about it; I was unhappy with my job and desperately wanted a change in career. However, being 25 years old, I was slightly wary that it was too late for a sudden career change. I decided I would start off from the basics and self-study for the MTA: Operating System Fundamentals. I spent day after day reading and making notes hours on end. After a week, I decided to take the test (using my money from my wages to pay for the exam). I passed with a relatively high score. My confidence shot up and I decided to next self-study for the MTA: Networking Fundamentals. Again, I made considerable notes and spent hours every day learning. After one week again, I decided to take the test and was delighted when I saw I got an even higher score! I decided to keep the momentum going and to self-study for the MTA: HTML5 Application Development Fundamentals. After a week, I decided to take the test. This was the hardest exam I took so far, but still managed to scrape a pass.

    So, within 3 weeks I had attained three separate entry level Microsoft certifications and although these were very basic, I definitely felt a lot more clued up on the fundamentals of IT. I then decided to start applying for jobs, hoping that I could convey my enthusiasm to potential employers. I received a call from a large IT firm offering an entry level position. I passed their telephone interview and also the one-to-one interview and began working for them less than a month later. This was essentially a 60% pay rise over my other job so I was really happy.

    What I'm trying to say is that although very cliched, you can do anything you put your mind to. All it requires is discipline, sacrifice and hard work. The IT industry progresses at a phenomenal pace, so you have to be willing to put in the extra effort. I've been in my current role for approximately 5 months and yes, I found it very difficult at the start and almost felt like quitting as I didn't feel I was good enough. However, my confidence grew week by week and I am so happy I stuck with it as I've learnt so much and really like my job now. Over the past month, I gained 2 new certs, the CompTIA A+ and Network+ (both by self studying). I also paid to go on a CCNA course as my aim is to get the CCENT before the end of this year. In addition, I have started a Computing & IT degree with the Open University (started at the beginning of this month). So you can see, I put a lot of effort into studying. I have always been a believer that hard work always pays off.

    I wish you the very best of luck in your future, but remember only YOU can change it. No-one is going to offer it to you on a sliver platter; you have to prove yourself.

    All the best.
     
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  8. Juelz

    Juelz Gigabyte Poster

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    Thank you so much for sharing your story youre right I guess.
     
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  9. Danmurph

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    Does anyone have a Violin handy?

    This is unfortunately a post that screams poor me poor me poor me!

    Sorry mate, its a dog eat dog world out here, grow a pair and make your girlfriend/family proud - you can be whoever you want to be!

    Maybe if you stopped "getting bored" and "quitting" you might actually get somewhere!

    I was poor, I got arrested when I was a teen - does anyone care now..no. Why, because I hit targets, reach goals, meet SLA's, Smash Quota's, under-promise and over deliver! I grab my career with both hands and say this is my life and I'm in control!

    You need a doer of stuff to get stuff done - that will make you successful, well it worked for me anyway :-)

    BTW, never measure your success by how much you earn - this is foolish. Measure your success by the difference you make - if you make a big enough difference you are successful..think about it
     
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  10. zxspectrum

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    I think its time to put this post to bed now, hes said his piece, weve said ours, what ever we think im sure he gets the message. Time to move on eh ?
     
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