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Life stuff

Discussion in 'The Lounge - Off Topic' started by zxspectrum, May 17, 2010.

  1. zxspectrum

    zxspectrum Gigabyte Poster Premium Member

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    Am i alonen in getting to stages of my life where i think, ok what am i doing here??

    The reason for this i think is because of an ongoing arguement which got sorted on sat night , where apparently im meant to be self centred, which i think is an unfair summatry of me because if someone asks me for something i do my best for them without anting anything in return, Plus it seems somewhat hypocritical of this person to say this when they only go out when it suits them or a situation is to their advantage.

    I get to stages in life where i wonder what im doing, and again, i find myself at one of those stages. Ive nearly finished my degree, ive one more year to do part time, but i crave something else, excitement, butr im also limited because of my kidney condition, im on dialysis etc. So even tho im living, im not living.

    And with my mates moving on in life, and me not seeming too im finding it hard to motivate mysefl, which maybe is a really bad thing, and i see that young lad who i used to be, all niave and inexperienced, loving new challenges in life, justwanting to sit in, like a recluse, if you like playing COD and only socialising via xbox live.

    I mean hte highligh of my day was to buy a bread making machine, that surely cant be right. think ill do a stock take and change a few things, i cant go on like this anymore??

    need to rethink things through??

    Ed
     
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  2. Enigma101

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    Hi Ed,
    Dont be so hard on yourself, far too many people compare themselfs against others.
    Do what you feel like doing and dont listen to the critics that try to bring you down, most of my friends are married with kids but i refuse to let it bother me.
     
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  3. soundian

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    The answer is 42
     
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  4. BosonMichael
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    You're definitely not alone - it's a very common feeling. Everyone asks that question at some point in their lives. But there are answers to be had and plenty of ways to deal with it all. I've finally gotten to the point where I'm content with life and understand what it is I'm here for. And you can have that same peace as well.

    One thing that's worked for me is to not compare myself or my life to others. It doesn't matter that the guy next door is making twice as much as I make and goes on vacations all the time. It doesn't matter that my co-workers drive new cars or buy new TVs. It doesn't matter that I can't do many things as well as others do... or even as well as I used to do them myself. Basically, I've stopped relying on "stuff" to make me happy. All these things are ephemeral - they don't last. So I've started focusing on and investing in things that DO last.

    You are in control of you. If you see something you don't like, change it. Nobody else can change it for you! :)
     
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  5. greenbrucelee
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    what he said ^

    some people get stuck in a rut and they tell themselves that they can't get out of it, but you can. It may be painful it may be very annoying and it may take a very long time but at the end of the day only you can make out of life what you want it to be.
     
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  6. Enigma101

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    Yes Boson very true although many people never see this, it reminds me of this classic George Carlin Video clip -

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvgN5gCuLac So funny..but so true :biggrin

    I am in the process of becoming a minamilist and after a few weeks of clearing "Stuff" i already feel so much better.
     
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  7. jk2447

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    Hi Ed,

    I'm sorry to hear you feel in such a rut, most people go through something like this in their lives at some stage, myself included. Do you mind if I ask if you have a significant other?

    Jim
     
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  8. zxspectrum

    zxspectrum Gigabyte Poster Premium Member

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    I do have a girlfriend, but the wifes not happy about it lol, Nah, seriously JK im single, sometimes i like it sometimes i dont. As for changing things i think ill start now, so ive put in for some volunteer work which will comprise of a network installaiton, hopefully they will go for it and it will give me a taste of what the real worl has to offer in regards to work life in the IT sector.

    As the job will involve a lot of installation and my knowledge is only book based, is there anyway i can get a head start??? Or a really good intuitive book that can teach me the ins and outs from a basic perspective all the way to the top so to speak.

    As for the advice, thanks to everyone, i know ill get through it i just need to stop feeling sorry for myself.

    Ed
     
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  9. jk2447

    jk2447 Petabyte Poster Moderator

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    Hey don't worry about it mate, a problem shared and all that. Chin up mate.
    None of my business but I reckon meeting someone would give you a bit of a boost. You know, the butterfly feeling ha ha
     
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  10. Rover977

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    Don't think you're alone, there's probably another million people out there feel much the same way.

    The thing is what other people are 'doing' with their lives may not be for you. A lot of people spend a lot of energy 'doing' things, or a lot of money on buying things, just to be the same as other people because they feel they have to.

    Just be yourself. Buddhists teach that people are perfect and complete within themselves, and connected to an infinite 'oneness' - so what difference does 'doing' or chasing after this or that make ?

    You are not being selfish if you genuinely want to help others when people give you the chance to.

    I think however, if you spend a lot of time on the computer, you need to make a special effort to get away from the computer periodically, to get out for some exercise, or fresh air, or just do something different. Its too easy to get glued to the screen and forget how many hours have passed, and also its not very productive if you work too many hours as then you get jaded and make more mistakes.
     
    Last edited: May 24, 2010
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