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I procrastinated

Still haven't got much done. For someone who used to be self-employed I cant believe I am finding it so difficult to manage. I think its because I am really fed up at the moment.

Also the house where I am currently staying is up for sale, which means i have had some study time taken up by house viewings.

Some good news is that my GP is a little worried by my negativity & social anxieties and is putting me on to a CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) course at the end of July. I hope this will bring me out of my shell a little and especially help with job prospects... which hasn't been good A. because i mess up interviews and B. i shy away from customer service based vacancies.

Cheers

Andi

 

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Hey man, I wish you the best of luck. One time or another, most if not all of us procrastinate. It can really add to the stress you already have because it just increases anxiety whilst doing nothing at all to help the situation, and it just promotes negative feeling. I for one procrastinate loads, and it really lets me down. Sooner or later it really stresses you out. What I tend to do is smart small. If I procrastinate, it's for almost everything, right down to shaving all the way to studying for exams. So, I just really push myself and think to myself there is no tomorrow. "Sieze the moment!" It makes you feel so good that you just push yourself and do whatever it is you wanted to do, no matter how small it was. Just get up and do it, don't worry about anything else. Thinking about too many things at once can also add to the stress. So, to summarise, JUST DO IT. Put that into your head, push yourself for the littlest of things and see what happens from there. Believe me the achievement once completing whatever you set out to do is great and makes you feel really satisfied.

If you fear something, try to wonder why, then try to push yourself and just see what happens. Take things as a pinch of salt. The only way to come out of your shell is trying to do things out of your comfort zone and making it your comfort zone.

Another thing I have been told is that you shouldn't think that there is anything wrong with you. Never make yourself to believe that you have some sort of issue. Your doctor did that because he felt you may just need the right advice. Don't let that make you feel you cannot overcome it yourself. And don't depend on the course too much. If it doesn't work, it doesn't mean your issues are incurable, just that it wasn't the right thing for you.

I hope I'm not waffling on too much, need to get going, but I thought I'd reply because I tend to be in very similar situations to you, and I tend to handle it just as I advised you. Don't worry too much and just do it.

I'm sure you can do it man, just believe you can. It's not out of your reach.

 

I think we all have times like this as when I worked for my last employer I worked from home covering a quarter of the UK and when stressed I would start with an stomach ulcer. I would then go to the doctors for some tablets to resolve the problem.

After doing this several times he suggested a few weeks off work and actually diagnosed anxiety as the problem as I had a very busy and stressful job. The few weeks turned into several months and then the company offered my a fantastic redundancy package which was too good to turn down.

I enjoy socialising and meeting other people but when I was working I would put off phoning a customer with bad news and then the next day do the same knowing all the time I had still got to do it.

Now I try and do everything as the need arises but still find it difficult sometimes.