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Do I tell interviewer my wife is pregnant and about to pop?!

Discussion in 'Employment & Jobs' started by millsie, Nov 18, 2013.

  1. millsie

    millsie Byte Poster

    Going for job interview next week and my Mrs is 35 weeks pregnant.

    So in the next possible 4 weeks, If im successful and they offer me the job I could potentially need days off.

    Do I tell them in the interview or wait until I'm offered a job? I dont want them to think i'm not an honest person if I dont tell them then say that I need days off once i've started!

    As I wont be entitled to paternity leave in this new job presumably it will have to be unpaid leave!


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  2. GSteer

    GSteer Megabyte Poster

    If it were me in that situation I'd tell them.

    If you don't, and you get the job, you run the risk of both:

    a) Alienating yourself by setting a bad precedent that you're dishonest and don't always tell the whole story
    b) Not getting any time off as you hadn't mentioned it as a requirement to accepting the job
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  3. danielno8

    danielno8 Gigabyte Poster

    i would also tell them.
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  4. SimonD

    SimonD Terabyte Poster Moderator

    You have to tell them, what if you started the role and then told them, imagine how you would feel if you were in their shoes?
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  5. cisco lab rat

    cisco lab rat Megabyte Poster

    Tell them.
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  6. BigG

    BigG Nibble Poster


    Your new employer will be much more understanding if you give them advance warning. At least then they can plan for your absence.

    If a brand new employee dropped a bombshell like that on me I'd be thinking "why didn't he just tell me..?

    Besides, even if you get the job, you have your notice period at your current employment to work before you join the new company. So the new company probably won't worry about it too much

    Good luck with everything

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  7. millsie

    millsie Byte Poster

    Cheers all,

    You confirmed what I was thinking, I suppose I just didnt want to jeopardise getting the job as i've heard they could be biased against me just for that if there was a choice between me and someone else in their shortlist after the interview they would go for the other guy!

    Nice one :o)
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  8. Sparky
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    Tell them :)
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  9. scott28tt

    scott28tt Byte Poster

    You'd tell them if you had a holiday booked wouldn't you?

    Not telling them about your wife would be a bad move...
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  10. AdamV

    AdamV Bit Poster

    Definitely tell them, then it is a known quantity. How desperate would they have to be to say you can't have the job because they can't afford for you to take a few days leave?
    You might even propose to take them as unpaid (rather than from holiday entitlement) to take some sting out.
    If they choose someone else over you, what is to say they or their partner won't become pregnant in the near future? They would then have to take leave - and depending on the timing this could be a statutory requirement they can't dodge, and they have to give that person far more than the few days you seem to be happy to take.

    Oh, and congratulations, by the way! Hope these last few weeks are going well for you both!
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